Women's day: How free are women

The entire thing of ‘Gaali’ reminds me of a casual debate that I had with some of my friends. Does abusing someone with A behench** or a madarch** hit the patriarch inside a man? Another friend said a very interesting thing about the word ‘Saala’. I was always wondering why Saala was an expletive and not ‘devar’ or ‘chacha’ or ‘mama’. What was so fascinating about the word sala when it came as a gali.

The friend said something which was so true. Actually ‘Saala’ as an expletive is something to tell you that ‘I bloody slept with your sister’. Now the entire debate rests in the point that whether sleeping with the sister was as equal as the sister sleeping with the man. Actually another friend of mine is of the view that the society acts in a hypocritical order. Consider this—A girl of loose character (that’s again a matter of wide discussion) is called a slut, but a boy of the same ‘loose character’ has no such connotation. He can be loosely called a flirt or a playboy. Now is ‘playboy’ or ‘flirt’ a synonym for ‘Slut’? Well these expletives can have endless points of understandings and explanations.


Was reading an article by a friend published on Navdunia (a hindi daily published from Bhopal).The question here, if women were free or men were free is an all together different concept. It is very interesting to see the freedom of women in the light of the freedom movement of India. When Maytree says that only men got freedom in 1947, she intends to tell you something very symbolic. I totally espouse what Maytree says(A feminist that the friend interviewed). Women have still not found the freedom that they deserve (or I think deserve might sound like giving something a due as opposed to rights). They are not at par with men and any one will tell you this.

Its only a matter of mindset. Giving reservation in the parliament or in busses and trains are nothing but gestures, which I think some radical feminists would oppose. It is about BELIEVING in equality. Both the gender must believe in equality and not bow under the pressure of equality. A so called gentleman might offer you a seat in the bus, believing that you have a reserved seat, or in the heart of his hearts that you are a weak being, a subordinate. But the question is—will he believe in equality? Might not. So I think that equal opportunity, unless espoused by you, cannot be followed in true spirit. Now again, Are women free? NO. STILL NOT.

The main idea to write about this was also to re-think if Women's day is a mere corporate thing or actually a reality. Keep up the spirits WOMEN.